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A Break From Blogging

Happy summer everyone! My dear hubby gets a few weeks off from school before summer classes start, so we’ll be catching up on quality time together. My blogging will probably be scarce – if I have something really cool to share, I will! Meanwhile, you can always check out what’s new on ebay: http://cgi.ebay.com/230622362213, (we’ll also list new items soon in our etsy shop: http://buymelove.etsy.com) or read our other blog: http://patientsvoicewhocares.blogspot.com.

I hope you’re all having a safe, sunny week!

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Thoughtful Thursdays – Life Is Full Of Broken Toes

Get Well Soon Wool Felted Bird by woolville

Poor Mom. Within the past few months, she’s had more injuries (almost) than she’s had in her entire life. The latest and greatest is a broken toe. It’s forced her to sit, rest, and let others do for her. Again. I’m pretty sure she’s sick and tired of depending on others.

I can definitely empathize. We come from a family of strong, independent, and, dare I say, stubborn women. Health problems have knocked me to my knees, and I’ve still said “oh no, I’m fine, thank you.” I guess health problems have to take it up a notch and knock me on my butt instead.  I’m slowly learning that lesson. For me, it’s taken a chronic pain syndrome, fibromyalgia, to teach me to ask for help (among other things.)

So, what’s your broken toe? At what point do you finally have to break down and ask for or accept help?

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Make It Monday – How To Turn A Bad Day Into A Good Day

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I know, I know, it may sound cheezy, but today’s “Make It Monday” is all about how to make a good day.

Are you rolling your eyes yet?

Okay, so you wake up and it’s a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. Your toast burns, your hair is doing that weird thing, you can’t find matching socks – whatever it is, it’s making you really irritated and want to crawl back in bed.

If you just want to wallow in your bad day, stop reading here. I mean, really – it’s your choice. Your family friends, and coworkers will thank you, though, if you decide that you’re not going to spend the entire day glaring and snapping at them.

So, here’s what you do:

1. Stop right there! Are all of these little things that are getting your day off to an annoying start a product of a bigger issue? If so, recognize that and focus your energy on the real issue. Didn’t get enough sleep? Make it a point to take a short nap at lunch today. Having issues with your significant other? List all of the reasons you love them in your head, and focus on those for the day until you have time to talk to them.

If the little things aren’t the product of a bigger bad, stop whatever it is you’re doing, whatever it is that’s keeping you from getting ready, and do something else. Can’t find socks? Go brush your teeth and come back to it. My mom has a fail-proof way of getting rid of stress in the moment: Stop it. Take 3 deep breaths. On the last breath, invision putting your problem in a bubble, and blowing it away really hard. Yeah, it sounds silly, and there have been times that I rolled my eyes when she suggested it, but it works.

2. Do something silly. One of my favorite ways to stop myself from being too serious is to dance around like an idiot to one of my favorite songs. Who cares if someone sees you? You’ll have made two people laugh – yourself and them. Another good one is to make stupid faces at yourself in the mirror. Seriously, the more juvenile, the better. We’re going for giggles, here.

3. Get busy.  Get on with your day, and if work is what’s bringing you down, bring something along that makes you smile. An Icee from the gas station is cheap, delicious, and turns your tongue funny colors. Just a thought.

Hope you all have a great day!

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Thoughtful Thursday – Beating the Hustle, Bustle, and Holiday Blues

Bah Humbug Greeting Card Set by SimplyInvitingCards

It’s almost inevitable: you’re excited about the holidays the week before Thanksgiving, and it all goes downhill after Black Friday. You’re sick of the Christmas music, the commercials, the crowds, the endless scramble for gifts. You just want to lock yourself in the house with leftovers until the new year. Unless you’ve mastered the art of not freaking out during the holidays, you may not realize that it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are some tips for keeping the rest of your holidays merry and bright:

1.  Reconsider the gifts. If you have a huge family, do gifts “secret Santa” style, where everyone draws one name from the hat, and gets a gift or two for that person only; you can also try just giving gifts to the kids. If it’s too late for that, get or make gifts in bulk. Everyone likes food, so if it’s already a tradition to bake goodies this time of year, make a bunch of them, wrap them with a little ribbon, and give them to friends and family. If you must go shopping, try getting all of your gifts in one or two places, plan the best route, or shop online. Another option is the “trading” system. For example, this year, I babysat a friend’s kids in exchange for an Avon order. I didn’t have to go to a store, and I enjoyed watching the kids! If you’ve already gotten your gifts taken care of (good for you!) consider one of these options next year.

2. Remember the reason for the season. Everyone knows it’s not about the gifts and decorations, but it’s easy to forget. By simplifying the gift-giving with the examples above, and accepting the fact that not everything will go according to plan, you can concentrate on spending time with your family and friends and reflecting on what the season is really about.

3. Take time to really give. Volunteer your time. It’s likely that there’s a local shelter near you – a veterans’ shelter, an animal shelter, a women’s shelter … find a cause that’s close to your heart, and spend some time helping out this season. Despite what you think, you do have time. It will remind you of the reason for the season, and how true the old saying is: “It is better to give than to receive.”

4. Take some time for yourself. It doesn’t mean a day at the spa, or a day dedicated to the golf course (but if you have the time, go for it!) It just means taking fifteen minutes out of your day to do nothing, to read, to take a bubble bath, or pray or meditate. It also means taking care of yourself! Be sure to exercise – do something as simple as going for a brisk walk – and eat as well as you can. If you’re responsible for preparing a dish, make sure it’s chock-full of veggies, fruit, or try a healthier version of an old standard. Keep indulgence portions small, and you’ll be grateful for your waistline and sanity later.

Finally, on a more serious note, if you know you struggle with depression around this time of year – it’s super common and you are not alone – find a counselor or support group to help get you through. The holidays can be really rough if you’ve lost someone you love, moved away from home, or had another big event in your life happen around these few months. That plus the lack of daylight hours and the expectations of the holidays can really bring you down. Be honest with your family and friends that you’re having a hard time, and let them know what they can do to help, even if it’s just to quit asking “Are you OK?”

Merry Christmas and happy new year!

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Whatever Weekend – Arts & Crafts Season, Part 2

Wow. Where did this week go? It’s suddenly October, and there are a million things on my to-do list! I need this week back.

Since I’ve seen so many posts from newbie show vendors this week, I thought I’d add to last weekend’s Ultimate Arts & Crafts Show Checklist, by typing up The Ultimate Arts & Crafts Show Tips. It’s a list of suggestions to help get you through the day with as few snafus as possible. After all, who likes snafus? I like saying “snafu,” but that’s about it.

One thing I have gotten done on my to-do list is the collection of cross keychains for the show:

I decided to use some of the vintage faux pearls I inhereted, and I think they turned out pretty well! Next, I’m working on some beaded lace statement necklaces and earrings.

Enjoy the weekend!

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Shopping Vintage Clothing: Overwhelmed? 3 Things To Ask Yourself

Things Aren't Always What They Seem - Vintage Dickey Under Jacket

 

With the recent resurgence in popularity of vintage clothing, lots of people are heading to their local thrift stores, resale shops, estate sales, and online to find the coolest items to add to their wardrobes. If you’re one of those people who has jumped on the groovy VW bus bandwagon of vintage, here are some questions to ask when you shop:

1. Is it really vintage? One of the best things you can do as a vintage buyer is to educate yourself. Vintage clothing is 20-25 years old or older (not exceeding 100 years, in which case it becomes antique.) The strict rule is 25 years or older, but sites like etsy.com have adopted the 20 year rule. Still, it can be tricky to tell the difference between late eighties and early nineties, or fourties fashion versus seventies fashion due to the “trend cycles” of the decades. (This can even be difficult for experienced sellers sometimes!) So, do a little research on your favorite kinds of vintage. If you like the bohemian look, research the sixties and seventies styles, fabrics, and designers a little. If you like the 80’s rocker look, do the same. After a little education, you’ll be able to take clues like the tags, the fabric content, and the manufacturer, and make a wise decision.

2. Is it worth the investment? Sometimes the value of a vintage piece is what you’re willing to pay for it, and not actually what the item is worth. If you find something, say, a fabulous sparkly sequined top from the 70’s, that you can’t live without, you might pay more for it. That’s fine! Just be sure that you understand the worth of what you’re buying. Unfortunately, some vintage sellers take advantage of the trend (or make an honest mistake) and inflate prices on items that aren’t really worth that much. So, if an item seems expensive ask yourself, “Is it in excellent condition? Does it still have the tags? Is it a designer piece that would have cost more in its original decade? Is there something special about the design, color, or fabric? Is it a highly collectible or sought after piece?” This might take a little googling (checking out the designer and popularity), but it’s worth it to spend your money wisely!

3. Will I wear it?  Yeah, it seems simple enough. Really, though, that seventies pantsuit might look outta sight on the hanger, but will you actually wear it? Try it on just like any other piece of clothing if you can, and ask yourself if it coordinates with other things in your closet. Is it a classic piece that can withstand the trends? Do you care? If you don’t love it, leave it. It’s no fun if it just hangs in your closet.

Obviously, the more vintage you shop for, the easier it will get. Even if you find out you’ve made a mistake later, at least you will have bought a piece that you really love to wear.

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Do You Whistle While You Work?

All Work And No Play Mini Print by kristensteinfineart on etsy.com

Sometimes I like to listen to music, or a tv show in the background while I work, and sometimes it drives me crazy to have too much noise going on. Sometimes I work at my “desk” (dining table), and sometimes on the couch or in a chair. I like to be dressed comfortably, and to have my old glasses on that don’t give me a headache after wearing them for more than an hour. I like to take pretty frequent breaks to drink something or have a snack. Sometimes, though, if I’m really on a roll, you can’t pry me away from what I’m doing! I think I learned all of these habits from my mom. I’m pretty sure she does all of these things when she’s working, too.

What do you do while you work? What makes you comfortable? Does it hinder you or help you? How can you become a more efficient, productive person?

For me, I need to know my limits. I need sleep, and if I don’t get it, I’m useless. So, when one of those projects comes along that’s hard to take a break from, I have to make myself do it. If my eyelids are getting heavy, chances are my work isn’t going to be as great, and I just need to go to bed. 

Keep an eye on yourself. If you were your own boss (which you are), how would you see yourself as an employee?  Would you tell yourself to take a day off, or to get your lazy bum back to work?

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